Sermon delivered April 5, 2009
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Jealousy is a very lethal emotion. When a person is jealous they want what someone else possesses. Jealously forces us to place our affections into another person or thing. Guys, you look at a cute girl with her arm around another guy and you get jealous. You want that cute girl to pour her affections into you. Ladies, you see a dress some other girl is wearing at prom and you get jealous. You want to hear people say about you, “Oh, look at how beautiful she looks in that dress” like they must be saying to her.
There have been disastrous consequences in my life because of jealousy. I lived in a big city when I was a little kid. When I moved back to Madison at age nine, I wanted to live in the big city ever since. When it came time to search for colleges, I had to go to one in a big city that would give me a degree so I could make enough money for a large house. I was so blind that I did not stop to think about the costs and logistics of living in a big city. I became depressed, bitter, and hateful as the very place I longed for throughout my life failed to give me the pleasure and joy I dreamed that it would.
It is no surprise then that the New Testament authors use some very harsh language when they discuss jealousy.
Paul asks in
1 Corinthians 3:3 (ESV), “For while there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not of the flesh and behaving in a human way?” Paul goes on to say in
Galatians 5:20 that jealousy is a fruit of the flesh and that it leads to death.
As we look at jealousy, we find two shocking statements. First is from Paul. As Paul condemns jealousy as a fruit of the flesh, he says in
2 Corinthians 11:2 (ESV), “For I feel a divine jealousy for you…” What’s going on here with Paul? But we find an even more shocking statement when it comes to jealousy.
God is jealous.
1 Kings 4:12 (ESV), says, “And Judah did what was evil in the sight of the LORD, and they provoked him to jealousy with their sins that they committed, more than all that their fathers had done.” Not only does God get jealous, he declares that his name is Jealous (
Exodus 34).
Not only is it shocking that Paul says he is jealous for the Corinthian church and that God is a jealous God, but what is shocking also is the New Testament authors tell us we cannot be Christians unless we are jealous.
Paul writes in
Romans 1:4-5 (ESV), “[Jesus Christ] was declared to be the Son of God in power according to the Spirit of holiness by his resurrection from the dead, Jesus Christ our Lord, through whom we have received grace and apostleship to bring about obedience of faith for the sake of his name among the nations.”
Paul says that whatever we do as a Christian, it is for the fame of Jesus’ name. We are to be jealous for God’s name because God is jealous for God’s name. Why does God get jealous when we sin? What do we have that God wants? God wants our affections. We pour out our affections into girls, boys, dresses, and cities, things that perish, but we don’t pour ourselves out into the living God.
John Stott writes in
Our Guilty Silence, “If God is right to be ‘jealous’, to oppose and resist the wickedness of men who do not give to Him the glory due His name, but turn aside to idols, then His own people should share His jealousy” (Silence, 20).
If you want to be a Christian, then be jealous for God! Be jealous that people pour out their affections to God. Why would we want people to pour out their affections into God? We desire this, and God desires this, because of the surpassing grace and love found in Jesus Christ crucified for sinners.
To answer why we should be jealous for God and how we can become jealous for Him, we must look at the nature of God. God is a name for three eternal, equal, and unique persons: The Father, Son, and Spirit.
Tim Keller writes in
The Reason For God, “The Trinity means that God is, in essence, relational… The life of the Trinity is characterized not by self-centeredness but by mutually self-giving love.”
“God is love” (
1 John 4:8). What John meant when he wrote that is in the relationship of the Father, Son, and Spirit, the three are constantly pouring their affections out to the other for the other’s good. The Son pours himself out for the Father’s good. The Father pours himself out for the Son’s good. The Spirit pours himself out for the other members of the Trinity for their good.
And then God made. Genesis says God made us in His image (
Genesis 1:26-27). He made us to pour ourselves out for the other for their good. Why did God give humanity dominion over creation, Adam a wife, Eve a husband, and both commands to obey? He did this so mankind could image the love in the Trinity by pouring themselves out to the other. And in this is eternal life.
John says at the beginning of his gospel, “In him was life, and the life was the light of men” (
John 1:4 ESV).
God designed us to pour our affections out to God, other people, and creation for their good so that we may have eternal life and eternal joy by abiding in God’s’ love.
What was the great temptation by Satan in the Garden of Eden (
Genesis 3:4-5)? He tempted Adam and Eve, just like he tempted Jesus in the desert (
Matthew 4:1-6), to not pour out their affections for the other’s good, but pour out their affections for their own good so they could gain pleasure, meaning, and eternal life on their own. Oh, the lies of Satan! And Adam bought it! We’ve all bought into the lie that if we pour out our affections for our own good and not the other’s good, then we could have abundant life, and more than God could offer. But what we did is cut ourselves off from the relationship among the Trinity. We cut ourselves off from the source of life! We looked at God and how he poured himself out for us by creating an entire world for us and we said, “Nope. I’m not going to pour myself out for you. I’m going to pour myself out for me.”
This is why all sin is evil, whether it is killing a man for his money, or lusting after another. When we sin, we subject others and our bodies for our pleasure and good, not theirs. We say, “You will serve me and give me pleasure,” thinking this will give us the ultimate source of joy and life when that can only be found in God.
Why is God jealous? Because He wants us to no longer pour out our affections into worthless, created things, but rather to pour our affections out into him, the creator, so that we may have eternal life with him.
It is not hard to understand then why God is angry and why we deserve his wrath. Imagine if you get drunk one night for no malicious reason and then decided to drive back home. As you drove back home you swerved into the other lane killing a five-year-old girl and her mother who was driving and seven months pregnant. Would you not say the father of that little girl and the husband of that woman deserves to hate you and pour out any wrath that he may have on you? That’s what we have done to God and that’s what we deserve from Him. But God did something incredible that no human mind could merely invent!
Imagine if that father came to visit you in the hospital and instead of pouring out his wrath on you, he gently said, “How can I serve you? I want you to get better and want you to become a man who doesn’t get drunk and kill pregnant mothers and their little girls. I love you and I want you to be restored.” This is exactly what happened when Jesus Christ went to the cross for sinners!
Romans 5:6-8 (ESV) states, “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person – though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die – but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Even after we made this world into a desert full of blood, God continually poured out his affections on us for our good. This is why when Jesus shows up he is pouring himself out for everyone during his ministry. He would approach the scandals in order to love them so they may experience the grace of God. In
John 4 he walks up to a woman that the whole town knows is sleeping around. This is like Jesus going up to a girl who is a senior in high school and pregnant. He goes up to her and lets her know that she is not condemned in the sight of God because of God’s grace. He talked with her, listened to her, answered her questions, and kept giving her grace. And the woman was transformed. She ran back to her town, told everyone, and they were stunned by Christ’s grace, searched for Jesus, talked to him, experienced his grace as he poured himself out to them as well, and they repented.
How do we show the surpassing value of God who pours out his affections for all people, including sinners like us in such a spectacular way? Is it putting K-Love bumper stickers on our cars? Is it debating with atheists to show that the Jesus is real? No. Those do not hurt, but it is not how God designed to show his grace through us for the sake of his name. How about serving the atheist for his good? How about telling others about God’s grace instead of hoping they listen to a Christian radio station?
In all this, we show the value of Jesus Christ so that others may pour out their affections into him and not worthless idols by first obeying the commands of Jesus Christ. Why did God give the Ten Commandments and why did Jesus deliver the Sermon on the Mount? All of these commands enable us to pour ourselves out for the other’s good and our affections into God.
Matthew 5:44-48 (ESV), “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes the sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends the rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward to you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
The proper response to the grace offered in Christ crucified for sinners is not to improve ourselves, or have better friendships, or get through life. Anyone who responds to the cross in that way has missed the love demonstrated on the cross. Remember, sin is pouring out our affections for our good and not the other’s good. So how is it not a sin to obey Jesus Christ for our good and not for the good of Jesus Christ, “for the sake of his name among the nations”?
What would you do if you were that person who killed that mother and daughter and then experienced the father’s grace? The proper response is to be in awe of his love and love others as he loved you. How could you not look around at those who need that kind of grace and not offer it? When I lived in Cleveland, I pushed the wheelchair of a handicapped girl during school. No one else would do it, but I would. It was one of the greatest things I’ve done in my life. She was helpless and I helped her. You could just tell by her smile this meant the world to her. We became good friends and the joy was astounding. During my high school years though no one offered that kind of grace to me, and the loneliness was so deep it took a miracle of God to rescue me from it. Who is in your life, whether across town or across the hall, that needs you to give them grace? Don’t wait to pour out grace to them as God as poured his grace to you. And by doing this, you will be lights in the darkness. You will be exiles in this world. You will belong to God’s kingdom, a kingdom of light, in a world of darkness.
Now I have to give you a warning. The world will hate you for this. Recently, a pastor in New Hampshire allowed a man convicted of murdering a child in the 1980’s to live in his house until this ex-convict could find his own housing. The ex-convict became a Christian in prison. The pastor wanted to ensure the ex-convict would continue to pour out his affections to God and others for their good. Therefore, the pastor poured out grace to the ex-convict so he could continue to see the grace of God. The neighbors hate the pastor for doing this. They constantly monitor his house, bought shotguns, and one neighbor when interviewed by ‘Good Morning America’ said of the ex-convict, “Some men just can’t find Jesus.”
“[T]he light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out by God” (
John 3:19-21 ESV).
How have you seen God demonstrate His grace in your life? How has that made a difference for you? Is there anyone that you know who is the scandal or estranged as we were in our sins without Christ? Is there anyone coming to your mind right now that your heart burns to help? How could you pour out yourself for them for their good? Could you sit with them and start a conversation when no one else is? Could you invite them to KOS? Could you meet the needs of their family? What kind of joy would there be in helping that person when doing this you will know you are a child of your Father who is in Heaven (
Matthew 5:45)?
“We all stumble in many ways” (
James 3:2). There will be times the darkness looks so attractive that we will begin to focus on ourselves when we desire to focus on the other. But the one source of our joy, the cross, is also the one source of our constant salvation. When God poured himself out for us on the cross, he poured out his Spirit as well. The Spirit of God now abides in those jealous for God and they can now rely on him for the strength to love as Christ loves. Call out to him in all times and constantly look to the grace of God in Christ. “He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?” (
Romans 8:32). By God’s grace, be jealous for the name of Christ.